Task Unit 4

ON BEING SHY

How  many times have you felt angry with your self because you were too shy to speak up when you really wanted to have to conversation with others person ? are parties times for standing in the corner and watching others chat and dance - afraid to join them ? do you listen to discussions but do not give your opinions because you think you are not smart enough ? do you wish you be friendly but don't know how? all these thoughts lead to unhappy feelings

this kind of unhappiness comes about not because other peple are trying to hurt us. we make this unhappiness for ourselves. naturally, we really don't to hurt ourselves, but often we group up thingking we are not as good as others- we are inferior, everyone is better, smarter and more interesting these negative thoughts make us shy , why do we do this ourselves? only a psychologist can discover the reasons. it is interesting to note that very large numbers of people are shy . there is , however , good news . if we want to get rid of shyness, it can be done.

we can help ourselves be rid of shyness. nobody is perfect, and everybody has good qualities. is it fair to pay attention to our imperfections and overlook our good qualities? definitely not ! the following suggestionsmay be helpful in redusing shyness.

1.     First, understand that you cannot eliminate shyness overnight. It is a slow process that you must work in gradually
2.   Think about situations when being shy is most painful. Perhaps your biggest problem is malking small talk with a stranger at a party. In that case, prepare yourself whit some interesting current news to talk about. The weather is a topic often used for starting conversations.
3.   Getting the other person to talk about himself or herself is a clever idea.Many people enjoy talking about themselves or giving their opinions.For example,you can say something like,”I notice you like modern jewelry; your rings are very unusual.Did you design them yourself?”this can be the start of a friendship
4.    Whenever you begin making negative comparisons between yourself and others,force yourself to stop doing that immadiately.Take your thoughts of yourself.Observe others and think of compliment with which to start a conversation with someone.
5.    If you are shy at work where there are many cowokers ,choose the least intimidating person to the perhaps have coffee with or make casua small talk with.
6.     Knows that if in effort to socialize sometimes is unsuccesful,it happens to everyone now and then.Feel proud of yourself for making the effort.
7.      If you are required to give a report to a group,tell them that you feel nervous.this feeling is quite natural,and everyone can sympathize.Expressing that the group will make you will better.
8.    Think about your good qualities and believe that you are as good as anyone else …..Because you are !
9.     Take a course in developing self confidence or read books on the subject.

Life is much more enjoyable for people who are not shy

Translate

Berapa kali anda merasa marah dengan diri Anda saat terlalu malu untuk berbicara ketika Anda benar-benar ingin memiliki ke percakapan dengan orang lain?adalah pihak-pihak kali untuk berdiri di sudut dan menonton orang lain chatting dan tari - takut untuk bergabung dengan mereka? Anda mendengarkan diskusi tetapi tidak memberikan pendapat Anda karena Anda pikir Anda tidak cukup pintar? Anda berharap Anda bersikap ramah tetapi tidak tahu bagaimana? semua pikiran-pikiran ini menimbulkan perasaan bahagia

semacam ini ketidakbahagiaan datang sekitar bukan karena peple lain mencoba untuk menyakiti kita. kita membuat ketidakbahagiaan ini untuk diri kita sendiri. alami, kita benar-benar tidak menyakiti diri kita sendiri, tetapi sering kita kelompok Facebook berfikir kita tidak sebaik yang lain-kita lebih rendah, setiap orang yang lebih baik, lebih pintar dan lebih menarik pikiran negatif membuat kita malu, mengapa kita melakukan ini sendiri ? hanya psikolog dapat menemukan alasan.menarik untuk dicatat bahwa jumlah sangat besar orang yang pemalu. ada, Namun, kabar baik. jika kita ingin menyingkirkan rasa malu, hal itu dapat dilakukan.

kita bisa membantu diri kita sendiri terbebas dari rasa malu. tidak ada orang yang sempurna, dan semua orang memiliki kualitas yang baik. apakah wajar untuk memperhatikan ketidaksempurnaan kita dan mengabaikan kualitas baik kita? jelas tidak! yang suggestionsmay berikut sangat membantu dalam redusing rasa malu.

1. Pertama, memahami bahwa Anda tidak dapat menghilangkan rasa malu semalam. Ini adalah proses yang lambat yang harus bekerja secara bertahap

2. Pikirkan tentang situasi ketika sedang pemalu yang paling menyakitkan. Mungkin masalah Anda yang terbesar adalah malking bicara kecil dengan orang asing di sebuah pesta. Dalam hal ini, mempersiapkan diri sedikit pun beberapa berita terbaru yang menarik untuk dibicarakan. Cuaca adalah topik yang sering digunakan untuk memulai percakapan.
3. Mendapatkan orang lain untuk berbicara tentang dirinya sendiri adalah idea.Many pintar orang senang berbicara tentang diri mereka sendiri atau memberikan contoh opini mereka, Anda bisa mengatakan sesuatu seperti, "Saya melihat Anda suka perhiasan modern; cincin Anda sangat unusual.Did Anda merancang mereka sendiri "ini bisa menjadi awal persahabatan?

4. Setiap kali Anda mulai membuat perbandingan negatif antara diri sendiri dan orang lain, memaksa diri Anda untuk berhenti melakukan yang immadiately.Take pikiran Anda yourself.Observe orang lain dan berpikir tentang pujian yang dapat digunakan untuk memulai percakapan dengan seseorang.

5. Jika Anda enggan bekerja di mana terdapat banyak cowokers, memilih orang yang paling menakutkan ke mungkin minum kopi dengan atau membuat berbicara casua kecil.

6. Tahu bahwa jika dalam usaha untuk mensosialisasikan kadang kegagalan, hal itu terjadi pada semua orang sekarang dan then.Feel bangga pada diri sendiri untuk membuat usaha.

7. Jika Anda diminta untuk memberikan laporan ke grup, mengatakan kepada mereka bahwa Anda merasa merasa nervous.this sangat alami, dan setiap orang dapat sympathize.Expressing bahwa kelompok itu akan membuat Anda lebih baik akan.

8. Pikirkan tentang kualitas yang baik dan percaya bahwa Anda sebaik orang lain ... .. Karena Anda!

9. Ambil kursus dalam mengembangkan percaya diri atau membaca buku tentang subjek

Hidup jauh lebih menyenangkan bagi orang yang tidak pemalu

COMPREHENSION CHECK

TRUE/FALSE

Are following statements true or false ? 

1. Not many people are shy                                                                                      (F)

2. others make us shy                                                                                             (T)

3. Shy people have negative thoughts about themselves                                               (T)

4. At a party, try to speak with at least one person, this is a first step in fighting shyness   (F)

5. Giving someone a compliment is a good why to start small talk                                     (T)

6. shyness should be kept a secret                                                                            (T)

7. Every person has good qualities                                                                             (T)

8. We can quickly eliminate shyness when we decide to do that                                      (T)

9. We can reduce shyness with a step -by-step plan                                                    (T)

10. Only perfect people are not shy                                                                           (F)

VOCABULARY DEVELOPMENT

Fill in the blanks with appropriate words from the list to complete the following sentences.

1. Yolanda was very sad when her cat died, and all her friends sympathized with her. They knew how much she loved her cat. 

2. Paul wants  to become a doctor. Gradually, he has to go to school for many years and work vary hard.

3. When Debbie said she wanted to go to China for two months, her family had many discussion

 before deciding to let her go.

4. It is interesting to observe how students act on the first day of school. Some are relaxed, but most shy and uncomfortable.

5. Many little children sleep with a small light on in their rooms, because darkness is intimidating to them.

6. Kaisha didn't like her new haircut at all, but she knew her hair would grow long again naturally.

7. When Maria goes to party, she loves to get compliments on her pretty dress.

8. Stephen loves to shop in department stores. He always gives away his old clothes and wears the current fashions.

9. Sra like to express her opinions on everything-even if nobody wants to hear them. Sometimes she is dislike because of this.

10. A grade of 100% is a perfect score. It means that the student made no mistake on the test.

11. When Min Chen to Queens Collage, she discovered that many people from her city in China were also students there.
12. When Carlos wanted to have a party for his wife, he asked for suggestion for interesting food to prepare. After many friends tried to help him he decided to use his favourite old recipes.
13. Applying to college means sending in an application, getting records from high school , writing your life story, and going for interviews. It is a long process, and it makes student nervous.
14. My friends think that smoking is a dirty and dangerous habit. I agree with their negative opinion.
15. People who want to lose weight should eliminated candy and ice ream from their diet. 

WORD FORM


WORK WITH A PARTNER

1. Shy people can sympathize with others who are shy.
2. It is natural for shy people to wish they were outgoing.
3. A shy people feels uncomfortable when someone makes a compliment remark.
4. Having discussion about shyness can be helpful.
5. Currently, there are several books in the library on the subject of shyness.
6. No one should expect perfection from himself out herself.
7. Psychologist has many suggestions for overcoming shyness.
8. By trying one suggestion at a time, a shy person while discover he or she can fight shyness.
9. Choose a person who is not intimidating to invite for coffee and conversation.